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On Change

Here we are….on the last day of the year. When I was younger, that felt magical. When I hit high school, it just meant the end of the longest break from school for the year. In college I became all about the resolutions.

This year is different. I know I keep going back to it, but the two years since my grandparents and uncle passed have been under more scrutiny than any other time period in my life. Maybe that’s because it coincided with my 30th birthday. Maybe it’s because my family dynamic changed suddenly. All I know is that this December 31st is vastly different than any other December 31st that I can remember.

This year was a jumble of medical issues (broken finger, infected finger, having strep twice, more fighting with anxiety and depression), and a roller coaster at work. Opening the outpatient clinics, the big Children’s Hospital move, and then winding up unemployed.

What I do know for sure is that change will happen. Independent of anything I do, change in inevitable. Knowing that makes the whole idea of resolutions silly. We are never the same people at the end of the year that we were in the beginning.

This coming year I want to focus on accepting change more readily. Last night I read Rage Planet, which is the first graphic novel featuring Jessica Cruz. This serves as the intro to the two new Lanterns, and is amazing beyond explanation for someone suffering from anxiety. Jessica’s partner, Simon Baz, is unimpressed with Jessica because of her struggles. However, through the course of the book, they come to trust each other and to see that even though flawed, there are reasons why each was chosen to be a Lantern.

I absolutely love the character of Jessica Cruz. She’s more than just a superhero. I can relate to her as a human being.

I know the Green Lantern interjection feels like I’ve fallen off course in this post – I haven’t. I promise. You see, rather than trying to change, I want to be better at handling change. I want to be able to go with the flow and not be so rocked by change. I want to believe in myself. I have Family and friends, and I know who I can count on to help. But I think it’s time I learn to believe in myself.

Change will come, whether we want it to or not. The only thing we have control over is how we handle it. This coming year, I am focusing on handling it with grace, optimism, and no small amount of self-forgiveness. I know this won’t be easy or immediate, but it feels like a goal worth working towards.

Have a safe and happy New Year, and don’t be too hard on yourself. You’ve got this!

New Year, New Me….and Assorted Bullshit

new-yearI used to love New Year’s Resolutions, or rather, the idea of them. My longest running streak is most likely somewhere around about 9 days or so. I don’t expect this year to be largely different, because when you try to change your behavior, there are always setbacks. And do-overs. And moments when you basically nuke any progress that you’ve made. But you see, I’m ok with that. After everything that happened last year, I’m inclined to think that it’s not so much an annual thing, as it is an every day thing. They say that you only stop learning when you die. I intend to make that the case.

This year, there are some things I’d like to accomplish. In an attempt at being kinder to myself, here are some things I’d like to improve upon, not only in the coming year but going forward in general.

  • THE GYM – Dipper pointed out that if I tire myself out, I will have less energy to spend on stressing about nonsense. (My therapist calls this “being a moving target”. I’m not sure I like that phrase, because it gives too much power to my anxiety.)
  • DE-CLUTTER – I really really want to de-clutter my house, and my life. I have clothes I haven’t worn in years, tupperware without lids or bottoms, and other bric-a-brac that I can do without.
  • CROCHET – I need to finish my 2016 temperature blanket, and I am setting up to make one for my parents. I also want to work on learning more stitches.
  • CHR – I owe a few authors book reads and reviews. I intend to not only make good on that, but to do so in a more timely fashion in the future.
  • CLEANING – I want to get my house to a state where it’s more of an issue of upkeep, rather than having to rip the rooms apart and clean.
  • SELF – I will spend the rest of my life battling anxiety and depression. And that’s ok. The important part is to FIGHT. I intend to be kinder to myself going forward. (Every day above ground is a good day. – Dipper)
  • PRESENTS – Leaving the crafting presents until the last minute HAS GOT TO GO. This year, I did so much crochet, I thought I would be stitching in my sleep. I have to start sooner!

Here’s to a New Year, and all the shit that goes along with it!